I hope you enjoy this personal letter. Before you get to that, here is the link for Jersey Muscle Episode #5: https://s3.amazonaws.com/newellstrength/jersey_muscle_ep5.mp3
That’s me all the way on the left, with my 3 brothers. I have wanted to write a letter to my younger self for a long time. So after my therapist told me to do this exact thing in our last session, I paid attention and started thinking about what I would write. This is a great exercise to do yourself. With that, here is my letter to 5-year-old Kyle.
I have a unique point of view that will help you very, very much. I am you in 28 years. The caring heart that you already have will continue to be one of your greatest strengths as you grow. Always treat others like you want to be treated (the Golden Rule), even strangers. And never forget that your brothers are your closest blood, talk to them weekly.
You will have to make some tough decisions in your future, I don’t want to tell you what specifically because that would be a disservice. But I can tell you, ALWAYS go with your gut. Some tough events will also unfold in your life, continue to carry the attitude forward that every situation can be looked at as good and you can always control your attitude.
You have a very focused mind already, just be sure to tame it from time to time. It can be your greatest ally and your greatest enemy. Strive to maintain a balanced life. And remember that the most important things in life are the simple things and the relationships you will form and nurture.
You will get knocked off your path every so often, distracted by things that shouldn’t matter and sometimes by losing sight of your mission and vision. Take time to re-evaluate your vision every few years. Live by that vision, it will drive everything you do.
You will always be a competitor at heart. Realize that it’s not about the end result, but rather it’s the journey. You will look back with fond memories on the hours and moments when you were going through the process, whether athletically, in your future profession or in your relationships. The journey will never really end, its like trying to find the end of the rainbow. If you can live your passion and be around people you love, you will have a great life.
Young Kyle, you will have many great mentors in your future, just pay attention to when they appear and cherish what they say and your time with them. And teaching is the best way to learn, remember that. You will become a voracious reader of books and even a decent writer, so pay attention in reading and writing class. You will tap into the written word as a way to help others, realize the power your words can have on someone.
Always maintain that sense of wonder and awe. Continue to believe that everything and anything is possible, even when other people tell you that you are crazy. Continue to believe in legends and myths; they are how we pass down our stories from generation to generation.
Finally, if you are going to laugh about something later, you mine as well laugh about it now. And forgiveness is key to enjoying your life. If you don’t’ forgive someone, it is really only hurting you because many times the person we hold a grudge against isn’t even thinking about it. Always think of ‘thank you for-giving me’ this opportunity to learn and grow from.
You have one shot at this thing called ‘life’, make it count.