What’s Important to You?
Ever since I can remember, I have had a laser like focus. Often, this has been the key to achieving goals that I have set for myself, no matter what the cost. I guess that partly why I am an entrepreneur and a weird combination of Type A personality and very introspective. I look back on some of the times in my life when I held myself to a super human schedule and can’t figure out how I did it, but I do know that it was that laser focus at work.
This summer, I have been really contemplating what success and happiness means. It is different for everyone, but I do think its important to figure out what it means to you on a personal level, otherwise you will never attain either. For a long time, I wanted to be the best strength Coach in the world. That was part of what was driving me. But for whom did I want to be the best strength coach in the world? For a while, it was just for myself, and thus a selfish reason. I don’t know if that was driven by ego or by some kind of insecurity, but I think I have always been trying to prove myself to myself, as weird as that sounds.
To me, success and happiness means learning, loving life and having someone to share it with. It has nothing to do with money or material things. In fact, I often dream of moving away to a remote location with Devon where we live a simple life. I often think of the old bodybuilder from the 80’s, Benny Podda, who retired and gave everything up to live in a literal cave in Los Angeles. He no longer wanted to be bothered by mundane things and he knew he could find peace living a quite, simple life. Don’t laugh, one of this guys clients was Joe Montana to name one of many elite athletes that he trained.
The other night while lying in bed, Devon told me that she realizes my business will always come first and that it’s the number one thing for me. I have always been waging that war in my head….how to balance the two. I feel guilty for all the times that Devon was trying to talk to me but my head was elsewhere, thinking of how to further grow Newell Strength. For the past 4 years, Devon has been up against my other mistress, Newell Strength. But when I pose the question: what’s important to me?, it’s hands down, Devon. So I am making the pledge here in front of you that I will be a leader and I will place what’s important first.
There will come a time, maybe 5 years, maybe 10 years, maybe 20 years when Newell Strength is just a memory, a period in my life that I will look back on with great happiness because of all of you that I have gotten the chance to help and Coach. And that too is what is important to me, to be the best strength coach in the world for YOU, not for me. I have been privileged to be given a pedestal to help others in this world and I will do my damn best to be my best for my students, day in and day out.
When the day comes that I decide to move on in life and close up shop, Devon and the lasting Coaching impact I will hopefully will have had on some of you will be all that is important. I fantasize about coming back to Hillsborough when I am well into my 50s or 60s and going to a local gym, hoodie up, squatting in the corner and over hearing some youngsters talk about folklore from a place they used to call Newell Strength. And the thing that is most important to me, Devon, will still be there by my side. Don’t forget why you do the things you do and what should take priority in your life….