“Of all the disorders of the soul, envy is the one no one confesses too.” -Plutarch
It seems that I have been getting bitch slapped left and right by little verbal jabs that friends and clients have been reporting back to me on, which I normally just laugh off but at the same time I think it’s important enough to write and teach about.
Last week, one of our athletes had a box jumping accident and got 20 stitches. We push the envelope hard at Newell Strength which is why so many athletes want to come and train there.
Turns out some young assistant strength coach at the local high school saw his shins and said, “If you were training here that wouldn’t have happened.” Not the first time this high school assistant strength coach has said something to this effect to a local athlete that trains at Newell Strength, and I am sure it won’t be the last. I have never met the kid nor do I care to. I normally operate on a level that I don’t pay any attention to other coaches unless I know they are really good and I can learn something from them. This tool of a strength coach has a lot to learn. His comments wreak of ENVY, pure, unaldultered jealousy.
BTW, the reason an accident like that wouldn’t happen at a local high school gym is because they don’t push the boundaries like we do and I am sure if they saw what we do at the gym it would look very, very foreign to them as I and my staff are constantly learning and applying things from the top strength coaches in the world. We are not stuck in some dumb ass text book, going by outdated, theoretical program design parameters. But I digress, let me stick to my topic.
Fact #1 about envy-people will hate on you when you are better and more superior in your niche than they are. Think about it, what else would a kid like this say? “Kyle is much, much better than I.” Not likely, so its human nature and his nature to talk smack. I am just using him as one of my examples, but stuff like this goes on all the time EVERYWHERE.
Another good friend and client of mine came in to the gym this morning and said some guy on his softball team that knows me said there is no way my gym can be as successful as he was telling him it was. Of course it can’t, if that particular kid was running it. The 99% rule applies to ALL. Most people can’t fathom or muster up the energy it takes to keep a schedule that a 1%er does, waking up at the crack of dawn, spending any and every break in the work day to work on building his dream, having every waking minute geared towards reaching his ultimate goal. That takes more mental energy up in a day for a 1%er than a 99%er spends in a month. This kid wasn’t there when I was sleep deprived for the past 5 years, not there when I was writing down my every thought in my little notebook, not there while I was driving around the country going to different seminars, spending thousands and thousands of dollars on my own education. He is not here with me right now writing this, when I’d much rather be sitting by the pool (in fact, I am sure he is chilling out somewhere right now, taking it easy).
Fact #2-People are secretly infuriated when you achieve success and they haven’t and know deep in their hearts that they won’t achieve it, not because they can’t but because they want it handed to them. They don’t want to go through the pain and discomfort. It is too hard for them and that is fine, but it’s the 1%ers that make the world go round, however the 99%ers allow the 1%ers to shine.
Envy is a cancer and the sooner you learn how to deal with it, the better you will be. I have had top people in the industry accuse me of stealing ideas and such, but ‘dogs don’t bark as parked cars’ and I knew it was them just getting envious of me passing them by.
Anyone, yes, anyone can attain success, its just that few are willing to put in the work and discomfort to do so. The mind is a powerful thing, as an example, Devon and I were watching a horror movie, Insidious, last weekend and she got so spooked that she no longer wanted to sleep in the basement so we had to go upstairs. Nothing changed but her ‘suspension of disbelief’.
Fact #3-Most people don’t believe they can become successful and great. They don’t know how to use the principle of ‘suspension of disbelief’ to turn on the theater of the mind. There have been many nights where I would sit there at the gym in my truck, long after everyone else went home and picture the athletes and gym that I wanted. Do you know how most people train their minds? By watching tv, think about that.
The whole point is that envy makes people do stupid things and if you attain success on any level, you are going to have some envious people trying to bring you back down to their level with the other muck. Recognize it for what it is and laugh it off, don’t waste your precious energy getting into losing battle….