Do What You Said You Would Do
In the 1940’s, there was a boy born in Austria, a boy that would go on to become my idol (in addition to thousands of other young boys).
When he was just 14 he told his friends:
‘I am going to go to California and become the best bodybuilder of all-time.’
‘I am going to go to Hollywood and become the #1 action star of all-time.’
‘I am going to become an American politician.’
What’s amazing about this is that that boy had only just started weightlifting, he didn’t speak a lick of English and he lived in Austria. That’s boy’s name?
I have always believed that Arnold is right up there with Michael Jordan as far as athletes that had the most dominant mindsets ever. Arnold did what he said he would do. He didn’t know how he was going to do it, but he knew it would be done.
This quality alone is magnetic.
How many people do you know that say they are going to write a book? And yet, nothing ever transpires. Just doing what you said you would do will leave out any room for failure or regret. Talk is cheap.
There are many different ways to look at this:
First off, a little trick is that publicly stating what you are going to do will make it harder not to do the thing. This is the law of congruency at work. From a brain perspective, we like to build trust with others. Trust will be relationships and the bigger our tribe, the more likely it is that we will survive and thrive. If I tell you that I am going to become a writer and I don’t do it, I have broken your trust. That’s not a good thing.
How many times have you gone through the week without doing what you said you were going to do? I am willing to bet that it happens quite often. It’s not that you lack the will power or the intent, so what’s going on?
You are tired.
Too many other things are vying for your time. This is life, and that happens. If you know that fatigue is one of the likely culprits, then you have to plan for fatigue. Fatigue is like chaos, if we plan for it, we will be able to respond.
If we don’t plan for it, we will just be in reaction mode, the land of mammals. Fatigue is most likely to get us at the end of the day when will power is of short supply (literally). That means that you should work on the things you said you were going to do early on in the day, like before anyone else can try to ‘grab’ your time.
Time is the most precious resource you have.
Without time being present, you’d be frozen or dead. You have to invest your time wisely on doing the things you said you were going to do.
You care about perfection.
Oh how lucky I am that I don’t give two craps about perfection. If other people did the same, I’d be in trouble because there are for more talented people that me out there that just can’t seem to pull the trigger on their ideas. Perfection is a creative killer. Perfection will stop you from doing what you said you were going to do because you will feel that it ‘just isn’t quite good enough’. Perfection is code for ‘YOU are scared’.
What do you mean Kyle? It means you are scared of the judgment that may come your way.
Now make no mistake, it may be judgment towards the thing you said you would do or it may be perceived judgment of spending time away from those that you love in order to do what you said you would do. Or it may be SELF judgment towards well, yourself which manifests as guilt. Stop feeling guilty and do what you said you would do. You should feel guilty about not following through on what you said you would do…
Perfection is a surefire way to go to the grave with the music still in your heart.
You are scared of having a lack of knowledge.
This happens but is shouldn’t be a permanent excuse. Every time I hit a wall I remember that what is usually holding me up is a lack of knowledge, which is easy to find and locate. When I realize this, the anxiety falls away.
Doing what you said you would has to be broken down into parts. If you want to write that book, you will never start because the project is too daunting. What’s the first thing you have to do to write the book? Do that thing, then the next thing, then the next thing and so on. Once you acquire the knowledge then it has to be one of the other monsters on this list that is stopping you.
You are passionless.
Sometimes we say we are going to do things but its for the wrong reasons or we haven’t cemented the reason we are going to do the thing with a strong enough emotion. From Mind Map, we know that emotion amplifies intention.
Just the other week, I had a very good friend tell me wanted to be a millionaire, yet he couldn’t explain why he wanted to be a millionaire.
You cannot ‘chase’ just to chase.
Maybe you were brought up as a good little factory worker, getting straight A’s and following all the rules all the way through life. And that lead you to doing something because someone else wanted you to do it. That degree you got; was is your choice or mommy and daddy’s? Did mom and dad want you to become a lawyer or was it in your heart?
Passion is what is going to keep you going. Passion is the only way to get around the issue of fatigue.
I know that when Colt was born, my schedule would take a hit, and my energy management would be shaken to its core. So, what did I do? I re-assessed and realized that I would have to modify for the time being. I also realized that HE was now yet another reason why I have to do what I said I would do.
The D.W.Y.S.Y.W.D motto goes for things big and small. Think about this as I sign off. All disappointment comes from expectations not met.
Do what you said you would do!