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When I first began to set bigger goals for my life back in 2007, I fell into the trap of picking specific outcomes and focusing only on them.

This led to a feeling of what I call β€˜Pre-success failure’, meaning, if you haven’t quite achieved your goal yet or if you fail to reach your goal, you feel like a failure the entire journey.

Because rather than focusing on the daily process or system, you focus on β€˜I have to win 1st place at this bodybuilding show’ or else type of mentality. I use bodybuilding because the process of that sport was where I really crystalized a lot of my views on mindset.

And lets say you achieve your goal, what happens when it has come and gone? You go into a funk, I’ve done that too.

So, the key is to think small and create positive tension.

You can do this by appreciating where you are at the reality of where you are at. That’s step number one. Don’t be a β€˜fly’ boy or girl where all you do is visualize a brighter future. Imagination and visualization are super important, but only if you embrace your current starting point and if you learn how to create positive tension.

Positive tension is the feeling you have for example, when you are looking forward to a great meal after a long day’s work. It’s there, it’s coming but it’s not too far off into the future that it either creates no feeling or is frustrating because it’s so far off in the future.

Positive tension is in the daily goal setting.

For me, as an example, I have big plans for the Panda, but if I think about the finality of them (which I do take daily time to visualize), it can be overwhelming.

But, if I think about one thing, one mini goal that I have to do today to move the chains just a little bit, it creates positive tension.

That positive tension leads to a constant dopamine drip and feeling of success, which you can then roll over into next day.

Positive tension is part of what I teach in our goal setting seminars and webinars.

Think small rather than thinking about massive action.

-Kyle Newell

P.S-If you would like a copy of our FREE mini-book, 33 Principles to Help you Win at Life, then you can go to www.newellstrength.com/33.