𝑫𝒂𝒅𝒔: 𝑩𝒆 𝒂 𝑴𝒂𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒓 𝒂𝒕 𝑴𝒂𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝑫𝒆𝒄𝒊𝒔𝒊𝒐𝒏𝒔
It’s twelve minutes to 11 AM as I am writing this.
First time at this coffee shop, which happens to be right in the same strip mall as BJJ, which is at noon.
I only give you the details so as to put intense time pressure on myself.
I now have 11 minutes to write this before my Mind Map session with a client.
Ok, dads, you are a leader.
Whether you are leading others is besides the point, because you are always leading yourself first.
But, I can guarantee you that others are watching and learning.
The biggest part of being a leader is having the ability to make decisions.
Making decisions is a muscle that can be trained.
The root word of decision in latin means ‘to sever’.
Cut yourself off from the other possibilities.
Decision making is black and white, no room for gray.
Gray eats up headspace.
Gray uses a tremendous amount of energy.
So, how can you become better at this skill?
Start with small decisions.
Such as: what hat are you going to wear today, what are you going to eat for dinner, and the list goes on. It really can be endless.
As you build this muscle, start taking on bigger decisions.
To become the leader you are meant to be, you will have to get good at making decisions.
Now, let me be clear.
You are not always going to be right.
And, many people will have ill feelings towards you for decisions you are going to make.
That’s a part of the deal.
But here’s the thing….
If you are following your values and principles, it’s perfectly fine whatever other people think of you.
You don’t make decisions to hurt others.
Yes, relationships can be tricky, but in the end, relationships grow and move on.
Sometimes in the short term, people will feel hurt.
It’s just a feeling though. It too shall pass.
As a dad, as a man, it’s on you to lead your community.
It’s up to us to turn the tide against what we are living through right now.
We are in this position because not enough men have been making decisions the past few decades.
We got complacent.
Our minds have gotten soft.
It’s time to step up the plate boys.
Be Unconventional - Kyle Newell
P.S-It’s now 10:57, time pressure always works.