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Mind Map: Are You Passive or Active When it Comes to Fear?

Last week, one of my great friends, Brandon, whom some of you have probably seen on one of the podcasts, came in to visit us.

No small feat, considering it's a 16-hour drive from Chicago.

We talked a few weeks earlier and the timing just clicked for both of us, so he came.

Devon often says he is like my ‘mental twin’.

We certainly have similar mindsets and the cool thing reflecting on our time together, not just him and I but my family and him, we all got what we needed in those two short days; clarity, inspiration and fun.

As we were driving home from our Friday morning workout, shortly before parting ways, I said, ‘You know, I was thinking last night, and I need things like what I am going through at this moment. It makes me stronger, I need the reps. I need things like these to challenge me.’

And maybe one day, I’ll share the particulars of this particular journey, but that’s besides the point.

Later that morning, Devon and I left for a road trip out to Cleveland without the kids. She said something that resonated regarding what Brandon and I were talking about.

‘You were born for things like this. You thrive in them’.

Now, I do admit that I don’t shy away from things, only because I know that in order to lead, you have to take an active approach to FEAR rather than a passive approach.

The opportunities are all around, all the time, to work on your fear muscle.

I like to think of it as mental resistance training.

The more active you are in tackling situations that most people would rather avoid, the more muscle you build, the easier they become, the better you get at making decisions and as the cycle goes.

Your brain is hardwired to look for the negative.

The ‘fear switch’ is always turned on, it’s a survival mechanism.

Fear is future based thought, it’s imaginary.

When you move into it, it dissolves.

That which you once feared melts away.

Being active with fear gives you a huge advantage in life.

And maybe some people are supposed to have that huge advantage.

Maybe some of us aren’t meant to explore the possibilities of this life, this time around.

I don’t have the answer to that.

All I know is that we are all guests here and while I am here, I am going to continually expand my being.

Be Unconventional - Kyle Newell

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