Mind Mapping: It's Not The External That Makes You Happy
Tomorrow night, I have a goal setting workshop I am putting on at our Hillsborough location.
It’s been a while since I shared some of my secrets, so it’s time.
Let me be clear, goal setting of any sort is better than not setting goals at all.
But, my approach over the past few years to my personal goal setting is radically different than it was when I was in high school; yes, I was setting goals in high school and practicing visualization.
The first two M’s of Mind Mapping are Motivation and Mastery.
The Mastery component is what I am going to be focusing on mainly tomorrow night.
Mastery is about prediction and response.
When you Master a thing, you can get a HUGE ROI out of seemingly very little effort.
However, it can take you years to get to this level of proficiency.
Bruce Lee could do a simple move on you and you would go flying across the room. A novice could do the same move to you a hundred times and have no impact upon your being.
One of the things I now practice is acquisition over validation. I focus more, much more, on the learning of the skill rather than the outcome.
The outcome is really just a lag indicator. It’s a target, but that target will not make you happy.
Yes, you will be sorely disappointed if you believe it will bring you happiness.
Happiness is an internal process of growth.
You may not have realized it until now, but your goal setting is more about the person you are becoming rather than what you are getting.
Once you connect the dots on this, your whole approach to growth and goal setting will transform.
Acquisition is about learning a skill (all skills can be learned) and therefore you can have success every day with acquisition.
Validation is saying: I want to weigh 225 or I will win this championship. Both meaningless if true mastery did not take place.
When I began fasting in 2014, I dabbled in it. Yes, I was consistent until 2019, at which point I wanted to master it and take it to the next level.
I own fasting, not the concept, but my practice of it.
I love to live it and I love to learn about it. I can predict and respond what I am doing with my fasting on any given day or week.
Point being, I have a passion for it.
And therein lies one of the keys I will be teaching at tomorrow night’s goal setting seminar.
Passion is one of the keys to acquisition.
Don’t worry, I’ll be pulling the curtains back quite a bit more in the session.
Think differently - Kyle Newell
P.S-Just PM if you and/or a friend want one of the remaining spots. I will also be streaming it on FB live, but nothing beats being there in person.